Fuming.....

Last Friday, the world stopped and everyone was glued to the TV as the BK/CB-F hearing commenced.  

Some women relived their own horrific sexual assault events; others scoffed.

Some men scoffed; others stood behind the women who were yelling 'Crucify him!"

"It's hard to be a man these days..."

A friend of mine posted the following thought-provoking statement:

"I need parenting advice.

Am I supposed to tell my stepdaughters that if they go to a party, drink alcohol, and pass out they are signing a theoretical waiver stating they accept the consequences of anyone taking advantage of them? And if they don’t call the authorities directly after they are acknowledging no harm, no foul?
Also, am I supposed to tell them that at any point they can accuse someone of wrongdoing and expect swift consequences without question, proof or due process?

Am I to tell my sons and stepsons that any girl who shows up to a party and partakes in drugs and alcohol is fair game for their sexual desires? And if she doesn’t immediately turn them in they’ve obviously done nothing wrong and can continue with how they treat women at parties??
Also, do I tell them they are obviously guilty of any and all accusations against them without proof or due process?

While the case at hand is sparking the comments I’m seeing from both men and women, these comments are nothing new to see. “IF it happened, she had it coming.” “IF it didn’t, all victims who come forward are obviously liars who want money and attention.”
Victims can be men and women.
There’s such a thing as compassion without judgement until evidence is produced, or a non-biased decision is made. We all have our assumptions of who is true and who is a liar. The comment sections though..... 😞

Other victims are watching.

Your kids are watching, too."

What's MY position?  

On the one hand, I cannot believe anyone would seriously accuse someone of something that happened over 30 years ago, where it cannot be investigated, and people named say they have no knowledge of it....even if they were supposedly in the room!

I was mildly attacked in high school.  Yes, it traumatized me for a few days, but now, 30 years later, I spoke to the classmate who did it, and he apologized for the way he'd treated me.  There is no animosity between us.  Just because it is now 'okay' to rake him over the coals, will I do it?  No; he's not in the public eye and he's been through his own private hell.  No need to dredge that up.

Another FB friend posted, saying he apologizes if he ever acted inappropriately or touched anyone inappropriately in HS.  I teased him about the Band Camp incident my junior year, when he was dating my best friend.  Again, I've not forgotten it, but we were young and stupid, and he's been forgiven.

Are today's teenagers going to grow up, holding onto past hurts and grudges?  How can anyone grow?  BK's not the same person he was 37 years ago.....and neither am I nor either of the men mentioned!

On the other hand.....

I think D. F., the senator who had been given the information to begin with, ought to be the one ousted from her job.  This was supposed to be an ANONYMOUS report, and made with only the 'here's what happens; do you really want him on the bench?' kind of note attached.....and she's turned it into a political 3-ring circus.

This brings back to mind the C.T/A.H crap back in the 90s, and he was confirmed.  So my other question is, who in their right minds would ever run for public office if their HS yearbooks, childish pranks, and questionable teenage behavior can now be put under the microscope and be raked over the coals for it?

I fear we're heading into Stepfordville....God forbid anyone disagree with their neighbors; express an unpopular decision; get caught on social media smoking anything illegal.

Is that the kind of society you want?

For myself, I just pray that God puts the right people in power to save our country from ourselves.

Or the Rapture occurs and takes me away before WW3 or another civil war.