Friday, April 27, 2018

"Not The Cos! Say It Ain't So!!!"

A jury found Bill Cosby guilty of sexual misconduct yesterday.

I'll admit, when the accusations first came out, I didn't believe them.  After all, this was a guy who espoused Family Values.  Prime Time on Thursdays belonged to good, wholesome, programming, with The Cosby Show, Different World, Cheers, and Night Court, with Hill Street Blues at 10pm.  I loved his Fat Albert cartoon in the 70s.  Who didn't love his Jello Pudding commercials?  His stand up routine?

This Cosby is different.  He's swearing at the prosecutor.  He's claiming these women are 'f**n' crazy'.  One woman last week even ran topless in protest, the names of his accusers written on her body.

Everyone is blackballing him.  His shows will not be shown anywhere, no one is coming to the man's defense.  Even Keisha Knight-Pulliam refused to talk about him (from what I saw, anyway....maybe it was edited out?) when she was on BB.

A question was posed several weeks ago:  Can you separate the ART from the ARTIST?  Can an artist be a horrible person, yet have his works revered?

I do hope that one day history will remember Cosby for the GOOD things, not just the fact he is now a convicted rapist.

It breaks my heart to see a childhood icon fall from grace.

Tuesday, February 6, 2018

Indy 500, PC Style.....

I'll admit it; we had some fun at the beginning of the race.

Let me back up a moment.  Ever since Trump was elected, there have been allegations of his being in bed with Russia.  In fact, the 'investigation' is still going, and has led to the resignation of top cabinet members.

Now it's even spread to his son-in-law.

So the VP, Mike Pence, was at the race.  There was a Russian race car driver.  My warped sense of humor kicked in.

"So if the Russian wins, will the Liberals say there is now PROOF the Russians are in cahoots with Washington, and rigged the Indy 500 while the VP looked on?"

Takuma Sato (Japan) goes on to win the 101st running.

"Oh ho, does this now mean JAPAN is in cahoots with Washington?"

Turns out I wasn't far off the mark.

Some racist idiot took issue that the first Japanese driver did his victory lap while waving his Japanese flag on Memorial weekend, wondering if a Muslim had won, and waved his Syrian flag, would we still have applauded?

Umm....yes, and other commenters jumped on him for that remark.

1)  Japan is now our ALLY and what happened over 75 years ago is in the past.  If everyone held a grudge, would ANYONE get along?

2) If a Syrian driver had participated and won, then yes.....he would be allowed to wave his flag.  But come wouldn't be Syria.  The closest thing we had to a Middle Eastern country driver was Ed Jones, from Dubai...and he finished 3rd.

Which brings me to another issue....the Rookie of the Year award.

Traditionally, it goes to the HIGHEST PLACE ROOKIE FINISHER!

Which *should* have been Ed Jones.  THIRD PLACE!!

But instead, the Powers That Be awarded it to Fernando Alonso of Spain, who finished in 29th place.  REALLY???  WTH???

Oh and am I the only one who thinks Zach Veech looks transgender?

No Words....

I'm a fairly tolerant person.  If I don't agree with a post on social media, I skip over it and go on.  Occasionally, you'll find me ranting over here about it, esp if there are multiple posts about the same subject, and I can't keep quiet.

But the other day, I nearly unfriended someone.  Here's what she had to say:

"Anyone else find this statement by Martin Luther King Jr.'s nephew, given while standing next to Trump, troubling as hell?:
"We refer to it as a day on, not a day off," Farris said. "It's not a day to hang out at the park and pull out the barbeque grill, it's a day to help someone else. That's the proper way to remember my uncle and the proper way to celebrate the holiday."
I am floored that such a prejudicial statement came from the Black nephew of Martin Luther King Jr., of all people.
And who the hell barbeques on MLK Day anyway??? It's January."

Someone commented (and I happen to agree with this!):
 I'm not sure I understand what you're saying. I take it to mean, look folks, this isn't a day off to play, it's a day off for service. A lot of people I know see it as a play day, a rest day. Side note, I have not gotten this off from work for the last ten years of employment.

Her response:
"Hanging out at the park with barbeque grills" almost always refers to a thing Black people do. What's extra problematic is that NO ONE EVER barbeques on this holiday. Therefore, he is literally using this statement to put down Black people and claim they are partying instead of working towards a cause....and he did it while standing next to Trump.

The 1st person then responded:
Ah. That makes sense

???????  I still don't get it.  'BBQ-ing in the park is a 'Black' thing?'  What about when white people go to the park?  Tailgate?  BBQ in their back yards?  As for 'nobody BBQ;s in January has obviously forgotten the 60 degree temps we had this time last year (this person lives an hour south of me).  WE BBQ'd every chance we got!  Mainly because this meant my spouse cooked, and clean up was soooo much easier when he used our grill!  So where does she get off, claiming it's a 'race' thing??

Comment #2:
Is he from the south? I mean Florida sometimes has 60-70 degree temps in January. I think you might be reading too much into it. What I got out of it was more of a pay it forward/be a good neighbor type of a vibe.

If anybody actually throws a barbeque in the park on MLK DAY I encourage them to respond and let me know they don't find this troubling.

Well, I certainly won't be. I live in Ohio and we're a little cold in January to be doing much of anything outside.

Comment #3:
I’m with you

Again, I'm over here like...??????  What's the big frickin' deal????

Then today, this pops up:

"Blacks are tired of Whites constantly telling us that our beliefs about racism are inaccurate."


Then someone posted:
"As far as whites advising blacks about their views about racism being inaccurate, it's like telling women their views about freedom of choice and equality are inaccurate!"

"Yes! Immigrants, disabled, LGBT, and others, too. I only speak of what is most prominent in my own personal experience. Though I am bisexual, I "present" as straight. And my disability (Crohn's Disease) is an invisible one. But I am bombarded by what it is to be Black in America every single day."

"Exactly. It’s not only racism, but also prejudices and stereotypes of both. It’s very sad. I do love that there are more platforms for each out there (whether it be football players, musicians, actresses, rallies, etc.) The first step is to make everyone aware. We cannot fix the problem until everyone knows there is a problem."

OMG.....I'm gagging over here.  Guess I need to unfriend her; I don't know how much more I can take.

I know, I know....'ignore it'...but I want to know, HOW is she 'bombarded' with it every day?  That's the same as saying 'I'm a woman; I'm bombarded with the sexual harassment/inequality issue every day., I'm not.

Authors Are Readers Too, Pt 2

So a little over three years ago, I had a WTH moment while participating in a book launch party on social media.  (To see the post, go here)  I'm good friends with this person, so I'm not going to mention any names.  But apparently, I've done something else to piss her off.

She posted on one of her pages about letting a finished WIP 'simmer' before diving into edits, and having finished one myself, I commented that I was doing the same thing, but could feel that 'tickle' about adding additional info and where to write it in, and the fact that I LOVE that feeling of writing non-stop for six days, as the story poured from my fingertips.

Guess what?  Up pops a PM:  "This page is for readers, not authors to gush about their own work."

So, being the nice person I am, I wrote back, "Oops..."

I deleted the comment, then PM'd back that I'd done so.

Any further comments or PMs?  Nada.

IMHO, it would have been nice if she'd acknowledged my mistake and the fact I corrected it.

But that's just me.

After all, we only see each other once a year....and  I have no idea what she says about me behind MY back!

So, forgive and move on.....

She DID PM me back, with the following:

"Thank you. I"m sorry to be like that, but it's been a whole lotta work putting this group together."

Which brings me to my next point: If you're going to create several pages (I'm counting at least 3, in addition to her regular page), and having trouble engaging people, then don't b**ch when someone comments, unless it's deroggatory or extremely inappropriate! I wasn't complaining; I was celebrating!

But to each his own....

Friday, November 24, 2017

WTH Did I Do???

Earlier this week, when I arrived at my local coffee house, I was surprised to learn two friends were having a book signing there this weekend.  Awesome!  As soon as my new PC arrived and was able to access the internet, I posted about it. 

When I double-checked the particulars, I found out I was wrong about one detail and corrected it.

Showed up this morning authors, just a packed house.

PM'd one answer.  I called; no answer.

Called the second....she told me it was TOMORROW and expressed delight that I planned to attend.

Two hours later, I checked my phone (it had been on the charger) and found the following message:

"Do NOT show up tomorrow.  If you do, I will call the cops.  You have insulted me as an author; you insulted my book."  (Paraphrased; I was in shock when I read it)

It was one of those messages where she'd PM'd me or messaged me under her pen name, so I neither accepted nor rejected the message, and went over to FB to see if there was an angry message under the review I'd left on GR.  Nothing.

And now I cannot even FIND the message.

I did PM her again, expressing confusion, and a sincere apology, saying IF I'd done anything to insult her, it was most definitely NOT intentional, and to please tell me how to fix this kerfluffle?


I'm in turmoil.  Do I show up in the morning and risk her wrath?  Do I stick my head in the door and ask to speak to her in private?  Do I stay home and pray she answers my PM?

I honestly cannot think of one thing I've done to defame her.  My review was 4 stars; I've done everything I can to HELP her in her I'm praying this was simply a glitch?  Maybe she saw something she thought was from me and this whole thing is a huge misunderstanding??

At 2pm, I seriously began to wonder if I'd walked through some alternate universe/time continuam thing, since NOTHING was making sense.  Thankfully, everything on the home front calmed down after an hour.  Ever have moments like that, where you feel as is you've been thrust into the wrong version of your life?

So what do I do?

*****UPDATE Nov 25th*********
Showed up today and asked if we could talk privately.  Thankfully, she smiled and went outside, then expressed her anger at me in a calm manner. 

Turns out that a flippant, off-the-cuff remark from me back in JUNE (nearly six months ago!) caused her to feel disrespected.  I thought I'd made a joking remark; I thought we'd been teasing each other!

Apparently not the case.

My question is, why didn't she pull me aside the next time I'd seen her (or even emailed me???) to tell me this?  Why wait several months when I cluelessly tried to CHAMPION her?

Granted, this person has been under a great deal of stress, and in her mind, it was another betrayal.

I am in NO way 'in competition' with her; she's a newbie author, with only her 2nd book out, and I've tried to help her every step of the way, from introducing her to cover artists, editors, and even publishing houses. 

She took my remark and felt as if I was trying to belittle her.  That was most definitely not the case.

We've hugged and forgiven each other, and it taught me another valuable lesson:  I need to continue to guard my tongue, especially around people I've only known for a few years.

This just reinforces my belief that men are easier creatures to get along with.  I don't have to monitor everything I say when I'm with my male friends and colleagues.


Friday, October 27, 2017

Done It Again.....

When will I learn do NOT post anything political/socially conscious/ANYTHING CONTROVERSIAL ON FACEBOOK????

Saw this on a friend's page and agreed with it, so I copied/pasted on my page:

"I copied and pasted this because there was not a share button on it. 
So why are the nfl players protesting? 
They were asked, and here are some of their answers...
NEW YORK (World News Bureau) - In a recent polling of 585 NFL players, nearly all of them were unsure of exactly what they are protesting.
Here's a sampling of responses to the question
"What are you protesting by kneeling during the National Anthem?"
"Pretty sure it's against Nazis - especially the white ones."
"We're protesting America becoming capitalistic instead of equal."
"I'm protesting against Trump saying black lives don't matter."
"We're against global warming and the police."
"We're showing the world that we care about, ahh, things such as... such as...ahhhhh, freedom from suppression?"
"Me and my fellow players are protesting the Constitution of Independence because of what it does to people of color."
"We are displaying our right to stand up by kneeling for our beliefs."
"We are protesting Trump, because he, you know, keeping the black man down and sh*t."
"Myself is kneeling to show that just because I'm American don't mean I got to act like one."
Sort of makes tears come to your eyes doesn’t it!!!!!
I would guess most of these NFL players graduated from college too
It says a lot about our education system doesn’t it. 250 -350 pounds of meat, the ability to catch a ball and zero brain in a swollen head."

(inserted by me)I rather agree with Phil Roberston: "Just because you have the right to protest doesn't mean you should." KNOW why you're protesting; don't just follow the crowd.

I didn't expect any comments, and the first two were fine:

(Cindy Bartolotto):  Sad

(Nick Kearney):  Yep very sad it shows the protest lost all meaning to the other players and I didn't see one right answer yet. 
They are obedient to their new master and that party was the founder of the KKK. The ones who know how to channel their anger and keep them angry. Mean while the brothers of color die in the hoods unknown, and for no good reasons.

But the next two?  GIVE ME A BREAK!  Now, granted, these two ladies are more on the liberal side of things.  But still, I resent the implication.

(Susan Holt Carroll):  Just to make sure you are aware, but the World News Bureau is satire.  This "warning" is posted on their website:


This is fictitious satire and any resemblance to persons, places, or events is coincidental.

(Billie B):   You know how to do research, mija. I’m disappointed. The site is satirical. But, while we’re on the topic, kneeling during the anthem is not a protest against the flag or the country. It is a protest (and a valid, peaceful one at that) against inequalities witnessed in our country. People who claim a private citizen has no right or reason to protest in a peaceful manner are the one’s who would deny the rights our country give us and all who visit here.

I didn't bother to comment, in fact, I'm deleting the entire post.  7 people 'liked' it.

I find it humorous that the friend I copied it from has NO comments, just two 'likes', one 'ha ha', and one 'wow'.  WHY is it when someone disagrees with you now, they feel it's their duty to tell you you're wrong?  What happened to simply scrolling by and keeping your mouth (or in this case, FINGERS) shut?

Oh wait.  We're in the age of 'everyone has an opinion' and that opinion MUST be rammed down everyone's throat, even if it's uncalled for.  And God forbid if we don't agree with EVERYTHING the left says, b/c we will be chased down and chastised until we agree with them, if only to shut them up to preserve our friendship.  

I'm getting tired of biting my tongue, and thinking seriously of going through my friend list.

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Preserve Our History, PLEASE!!!!!

Over the past several months, there has been an alarming trend in our country.  First they wanted to remove all traces of the Confederate Flag (thank you SC!  I roll my eyes at your lack of spine); now they want to tear down all 'Rebel' monuments.

Have they never heard 'those who ignore history are doomed to repeat it'?  If you destroy all historic monuments to the Confederate side of the Civil War, what does that teach the next generation?

Leave Stone Mountain alone.  Leave the stained glass window in that church in Virginia, a testament to Stonewall Jackson the MAN alone.

Should we sandblast Mt. Rushmore, because Jefferson was a slave owner?  What about his contributions to expanding this magnificent country of ours?

Destroy the Jefferson Davis Memorial?  What about the OTHER side of the war's story? If you don't present both sides of the war, future generations will think only the Union's side mattered.  Just because we won doesn't mean we didn't make mistakes too.  Lincoln was assassinated, and his follow-up plan was never put into place.

What's next, remove all traces of the Revolutionary War, just because now England is our ally?