What Is WRONG With People???

Post written 5-31-19
Since it's now nearly six months later, I can post this.

Yes, it's time for another rant.

This time, over a fast-food restaurant that may or may not be coming to our town.

Here's the picture floating around:

 Unfortunately, this proved to be photoshopped.  Here's the correct one:

But what I'm objecting to is the BRUHA over it!

***Names withheld*****
"We are not getting a C-F-A.

I think everyone will be happy with what’s coming to Kimmel Road, but C-F-A isn’t one of them! Also, please know that they still donate money to anti-LGBTQ organizations. Having good chicken nuggets doesn’t make up for that that. Not for me!"

(Voice of Reason):  "

 Let them donate to whoever they want. Its the only family friendly place I can find"

Re:  "They can donate to whoever they want, but I'm not going to spend my money there anymore."

VOR:  "I understand. Are they supporting conversion therapy? Or something actually damaging that I don't know about? I thought they just donated to pro marriage groups."

Lib #2:  " I haven't eaten there in years. I'm sure other companies donate to anti lgbtq groups too, but they brag about it. According to this article, they did donate to a group supporting conversion therapy."

VOR:  "They no longer fund those groups. They haven't been anti LGBT in quite a while. I welcome religious groups who provide a family friendly environment, even though I am totally on the side of the left. Leftists have families too and we like a quality product in a clean restaurant where our kids won't get ostracized for acting like children. Honestly its one of the most well run businesses around where I live. They have amazing customer service training as well."

Lib #2:  "As of this year they were still giving money. I have kids and won't go there. Plenty of other restaurants are clean and family friendly. The food isn't great anyway."

Lib #3:  "“C-F-A Foundation says anti-LGBTQ giving is part of its ‘higher calling’"....spend your money where you want but they definitely still are anti-LGBTQ."

Lib #4:  "Good! Screw them!"

Lib #5:  "Glad! What a hateful place."

Lib #6:  " I like C-F-A's food, as far as fast food goes. And yes they are clean, have good customer service, and child-friendly. 

That said -- nope, they don't get my money. The owners are entitled to whatever personal beliefs they want to have, but they actively donate to anti-LGBT groups. Conversion therapy is abusive and should be illegal everywhere, but that's not the only hateful thing they have supported. Let people be who they are, and mind your own business C-F-A. If two consenting adults are in love and happy, it does not hurt anyone else, not even one tiny little bit. 

They have a right to donate their money to whatever they want. But it won't be money they get from me."

Lib #7:  "I have never gone and will never go to a C-F-A. I will not support a business built on bigotry."

***End Discussion*******

Let's flip this around.  Say an LGBTQ business opens up, and conservatives raise protest.  Oh, wait....the gay bar in town?  Is there any bruha over it?  Okay, a little.....but NOTHING like I've seen here!  

*Full disclosure here*  I'm not actually sure we DO have an established gay bar, but I remember when it DID exist in another town!

Don't like the owner's politics?  Don't eat there or go there.  There are PLENTY of other places to frequent.  For my part, I could care less about a restaurant's beliefs, if I happen to like the food and the staff.

If everyone objected to all beliefs, we'd end up not being able to enjoy a meal out with the family ANYWHERE.  Someone would be complaining about the ingredients, the atmosphere, the staff, or even the art on the walls.  Get over yourself.  If you don't want to frequent any places where 'total equality' isn't practiced, then you're better off staying home.

I've never eaten at a C-F-A, but my daughter enjoys their food.  I karaoke with several of the GLBTQ community, and enjoy their friendship.  It does NOT mean I have to embrace their lifestyle.  We can agree to disagree.

People have sooooo forgotten that!!!!

Update:  We're now getting a Hobby Lobby AND a Texas Roadhouse!!!!!  Plus, I think one of the banks is adding either a branch or simply an ATM out there.

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Update 4/9/2021:  C-F-A announced they WILL build a store, since their food truck two weeks ago sparked such a positive response!!!

So This Just Happened......

Post written:  1-5-19

All of a sudden, authors are up in arms over a rant by a cover artist, and blocking him from their FB feed, or unfriending him altogether.  Why?

The man dared to express his honest, no-holds-barred opinion on obesity.

Ladies, he's a body-builder.  The man works hard to keep his body in shape, so women will snap up our books, no matter what the title.  So yeah, he's a little 'in your face' and crass.  He's just speaking the God's honest TRUTH!

"Do I really have to even write anything here?!?! My post says it all!🤦🏻‍♂️ And it is disgusting!🤮
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Yes, disgusting how lazy Americans are! How little self-control, discipline, and care for their health they have. Especially when I see fat kids... That is “child abuse” and it really irritates me😤
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And so tired of seeing posts or write-ups about how “big is beautiful”, telling other obese/severely overweight people that they should just love themselves as they are...
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NO THEY SHOULDN’T! Stop encouraging them to be lazy, and unhealthy!
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- Don’t act like you don’t fly on a plane because you’d rather drive... You hate trying to force-squeeze yourself into the seat and embarrassed that you can’t even buckle the seat belt as it won’t reach.
- Same for why you don’t go to the movie theater...
- Or on amusement park rides.
- You hate not being able to be on your feet for that long due from the pain of all that weight your feet, ankles and knees have to hold up.
- Having only stretchy wasted pants and XXXL t-shirts for the majority of your wardrobe.
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All of those who say they love their large body, in a MILLISECOND would say yes to being able to snap their fingers to be in great shape!
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Unmotivated people need HARD CORE, IN YOUR FACE reminders like this post of how unhealthy they are at their size, and NOT “so called” friends not saying a word to them about it, afraid they will hurt their feelings!... F THAT!... So this is merely one of those wake-up calls.
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Do you think I enjoy going to the gym? Hell no! I did the first 15-20 years working out. But when you have been doing it for almost 34 years, it is DRAINING, time-consuming & HARD WORK! Especially at my level, where I push harder and further than most do or can, as it is now innate to me and I don’t feel the OMG/WTF feeling of exertion until I stop my last rep, where then I am dying out of breath, about to fall over/pass-out.
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And no, I can’t lift easier. That is like telling a cheetah to run slower, or a hummingbird to flap its wings less, or dynamite to explode gently!
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And now before all you haters come on my post trying to claim obese people can’t help being that way, they have health issues...

“According to the CDC, 63% of teenage girls become overweight by age 11.”😡

“Obesity in the United States is a major health issue, resulting in numerous diseases, specifically increased risk of certain types of cancer, coronary artery disease, type 2 diabetes, stroke, as well as significant economic costs.”...
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That said “RESULTING IN”, not what made them obese!!

“Obesity has continued to grow within the United States. Two of every three American men are considered to be overweight or obese, but the rates for women are far higher. The United States contains one of the highest percentage of obese people in the world.”

“An obese person in America incurs an average of $1,429 more in medical expenses annually. Approximately $147 billion is spent in added medical expenses per year within the United States. This number is suspected to increase approximately $1.24 billion per year until the year 2030.”
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This causes everyone else to have higher health insurance rates!!!😡

“It is estimated that 3/4 of the American population will likely be overweight or obese by 2020.”
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So save your hate comments for when you are talking to yourself about your own obesity!"

Last year, I was rather appalled by a plus-size author posting pics in her bikini.  I found it rather offensive, since I stopped wearing bikinis after the birth of my 1st child, even though I'd finally lost all my 'baby weight'.  I didn't like the way I looked in it, and didn't feel the need to inflict my flabbiness on the general public.  I went back to tank suits.

After hitting my highest weight, I hated putting on bathing suits unless I had shorts on.  This past year, I bought a tankini, with a flared skirt for a bottom, to cover up my 'thunder thighs'.

I APPLAUD what the man said!  I'm trying to lose the pounds I put on from 2011-2013, and even if I don't achieve my total goal, I'm doing it for ME....so I'm healthier.

I get that some of it's genetic.  Some people, no matter what they do, just can't lose the pounds.  But at least TRY?  If you've tried everything and your metabolism just won't cooperate, that's one thing.  But to lie to yourself and say 'Big is beautiful'?  Again, if you're healthy, that's one thing.  If you have HBP, diabetes, and other health issues, listen to your doctor and try to drop some pounds?

*****UPDATE*********

Boy howdy, has the sh*t hit the fan!  Authors are blocking him, having their covers changed, and even cursing him out on his page.  Only TWO people have stood up for him....and, you guessed it....been slammed.  I messaged one of them privately and told her I was on my side, but couldn't afford to be 'black-balled' by my fellow authors.  She understood.

JT even responded today with this:

"THE TRUTH (because for writers and readers you are all illiterate!)...

I never said obese women were disgusting. I said obesity in America is disgusting. The issue of obesity, not individual people. The issue of obesity means you allow yourself to get obese. That doesn’t say you as a person are disgusting. It says you not doing anything, or much, or enough, about it when you can is disgusting. The “act” is disgusting not the person.

But you all don’t want it to be that actual truth of what I really wrote. You want it to be like I’m body-shaming you, as you all LIE and say I’m directly insulting you personally and every single overweight person to ever walk the earth, and that I hate all women🙄

That way you can be mad at me instead of yourselves for being lazy and not doing something or enough about your obesity.

And lazy does not mean exercise. Lazy means anything of a forward action to do something about your obesity. And you ALL can, but lie and say you can’t. You all can eat less and the right foods. It is a very very small percentage of people that have diseases where it makes it very HARD (not impossible) to lose weight via diet. There is not one single disease that makes it “impossible” to lose weight, and causes you to continue to gain weight like you all claim.

A disease can’t make food go into your mouth. So a disease cannot make you gain weight. Only the food that goes in your mouth can cause you to gain weight. How your body reacts to food because of very rare diseases is something different. Which can still be controlled, and is a tiny % of the population, not everyone of you hypocritical liars. Only 16% of people have a thyroid problem, and that includes the ones that make you LOSE weight.

If everybody who was overweight and obese were actually trying to do something about it, the obesity rate wouldn’t be 2/3 of America, with next year it going UP to 3/4 of America! So you are all a bunch of liars!

You could’ve all easily commented by saying...

“I know, I know it’s just so hard to have self-control to not eat more when I’m hungry, and I’ve tried various diets and can’t seem to stick to them or can’t seem to get results from them. Do you have any suggestions for me, because you’re right “obesity in America is disgusting” and I don’t want to be a part of it anymore.”

But nobody will say that, as you are ashamed to admit it. But see how easily your moronic attitudes could’ve prevented all this? 

None of you are even on here to defend body shaming, because just about EVERY ONE of you have been non-stop body shaming myself and my girlfriend. That PROVES you are not defending body-shaming, as YOU body shame! It proves you are hypocritical lying trash!"

Yes, he could have been a little more tactful in his delivery.  I get that.  But the point he's trying to make is America has a weight problem.  Some commenters tried to point that out, but apparently everyone else saw this post as 'Plus-Sized Women Are Disgusting and Have No Self-Control'.

Ummm....no, that's not what he was saying.

I don't dare post this for a few months....

Visit From The Great Beyond???

Dreamed about Steve a few nights ago....

I was at a party and Steve showed up.  He greeted me, but moved around the room.  When the music began, I waited for a few minutes, then left the group I was with and walked over to him, lightly placed my hands on his waist, and squeezed, as we moved in a slow 'dance' for a few seconds, before I moved on and went back to my group.

He approached me after a while and pulled me into his arms on the dance floor when Madonna's 'Crazy For You' began playing.  When the second verse began, he kissed me, then told me, "You don't have to do anything special to get my attention.  I knew where you were from the moment I arrived; I just didn't want to make it obvious.  So if it happens again, don't approach me; let me come to you."

When the song ended, he kissed me again, smiled, squeezed my hand, and left the dance floor.  I was left feeling confused, and a little hurt.  On the one hand, it felt like a rejection, for that's how he always treated me at parties, but at the same time, it was comforting, since it showed he was thinking about me.

Then the scene switched; I was somewhere else, and the hostess announced they'd hired some people to take pictures with us.  She opened the door and there were three men, dressed in liederhossen (sp??) and one of them was BJC, smiling from ear to ear.  But I woke up after that, so have no idea what was going on.

Both dreams were in full color; Steve was in a multi-colored striped shirt, with his golden hair cropped short, and wearing faded blue jeans.  BJC and his buddies were in the green and white outfits, with green hats.  On second thought, maybe they were elves?  LOL!

Small Rant....

Jan 9, 2019:
Last month, I learned my stepdaughter's short term disability had run out, and she needed help with rent, utilities, food, and, oh yeah....Christmas presents.

We could not afford to help her.

She texted again, saying she'd gotten some food stamps and utility assistance....could we help with about $30 for non-food items?  

Again, we were unable to help her.

She started a My Family fundraiser on FB, but only raised $75..

On Dec 21st, I was informed A had been awarded about $5K in insurance money, since Master P had had a stroke at birth.  Suddenly, they're going out to dinner; buying extravagant gifts for family, and even getting tattoos for herself and A.

Is that a responsible way to spend that $$, I ask?

Now, I get it.  If I suddenly came into that kind of money this time of year, yeah....I'd spend some on myself too.

But I sincerely hope they've socked some away for the basics, and we don't get another request mid-January due to 'being out of $$'.

End rant.

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Update:  
2/11:  So far, funds appear to have been spent in sensible manner; we've not gotten any phone calls for assistance.

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Another Update:
6/9 (or somewhere around this date):  My daughter applies to FedEx, and goes north for the interview.  She and A stay with J and Co, and plans are made that, should they offer her the job, J will clear out her back room, and S and A can live with them.  S does the math and decides it's possible; if she can save her funds, catch up on her Jeep payments, and possibly save the $2000 needed to get her own place in the neighborhood, since the owners are putting in new units, and they look nice on the website.  Red Flag #1:  J has no food in the house, so S has to spend $10 of her emergency $$ to buy some chicken so they can eat dinner.  My question was, what was J going to feed everyone if S hadn't arrived?

6/14:  S receives confirmation of her hire, and starts packing.  They drive up on the 16th.

6/17:  S calls.  Apparently, there is a wall-to-wall hole in the floor in 'her' room, and you have to be careful where to step.  Also, J has no food, and is being threatened with eviction.  She went to the trustees to see about assistance, KNOWING S had orientation at noon.  At 11:30, she wasn't back, and S said MDQ hadn't gone to bed until 4am, and didn't feel comfortable leaving A all alone with only ME and possibly MDQ or even Mini-Miss Drama Queen.  She decides she's not going to orientation, and instead, pack up and come home.  I deposited my spare $60 into her account, so she could feed the girls lunch and gas up her car.

2pm:  J has been turned down for assistance, and MDQ had woken up, discovered the situation, and called Grandma, who rushed over with some food.  S and MDQ tell her what's been going on, and she confronts J, who starts pouting and goes into her room.  More details emerge:
   -Red Flag #2:  J had braided someone's hair for $25, and bought minimal food, plus two packs of cigarettes.

  -Red Flag #3:  J had attended a concert in Bowling Green, KY in April, AND the same concert in Lafayette last week, that's why she didn't have any $$ for food or rent.

  -Red Flag #4:  Apparently, to hide the fact of her concert-going funds, J created her own false bank account to show to the trustees!  1) this is FRAUD and 2) it shows she has a serious money-spending problem, and is in denial about it.

  -Red Flag #5:  The dogs are very emaciated and are not getting fed/watered/exercised/socialized on a daily basis.  PLUS, they are not being cleaned up after.

  -Red Flag #6:  The bathroom is missing a hot water knob, and to turn it on, one has to use pliers to turn it on.  Also, the floor is spongy.

  -Red Flag #7:  MDQ is counting down the days til she turns 18, in order to move out.  Unfortunately, ME has another year, and is stuck with his mom, before he can enter the military.

So I was a few months off in my estimate of when the shit would hit the fan.  I just can't believe someone about to hit 40 could be so selfish, so irresponsible, with money, and who has KIDS and a GRANDCHILD living with them!  When will she GROW UP?  She wasn't raised this way!

I don't blame my daughter one bit for getting out.  My only regret is not taking MDQ and ME away from her fifteen years ago, or even ten years ago.  I thought she would have learned her lesson. 

Looks like we were wrong.

Getting Out Of Control....

The latest bru-hah has been over a certain VA Governor and Lt. Gov.

Gov supposedly over 35 years ago, had a questionable choice of Halloween costume.  But if you hold politicians to that same standard, why not a certain talk show host, whose pictures from 30 years ago showed she dressed up as an African-American for Halloween, and she's not getting raked over the coals?  Or the shaming of Megyn Kelly, who innocently asked if it was really offensive for a white person to don black makeup, if, for example, I wanted to go as Diana Ross?

For that matter, where's the uproar over Delta Burke when she did that in an episode of Designing Women?

Makes no sense.

Another problem VA is having, is with the Lt. Gov.

Accuser #1 says he 'forced her' to perform oral sex.  Lady, you have a mouthful of teeth.  Why didn't you use them?  I guarantee he'd have left you alone!  Also, say he did hit you after you bit him.  He has several spots on his body that women have known for centuries that would have rendered him helpless, had you pinched/kicked/jabbed them.

Accuser #2 may actually be genuine.


WTF NY????

Approving 3rd term partial-birth abortions, and then stating 'we'd leave that decisions up to the medical team' if the baby was about to be born ANYWAY, but the mother said she didn't want it.  Put the baby in the hands of the state, not just watch it die, damn it!  It's MURDER.....so put the unwanted child up for adoption.  There are many childless couples out there who will gladly give it a home.

Abortions should ONLY be performed up until 12 weeks.  I'm on the fence about what to do with stillborns, when it's obvious something's happened to the fetus.  Do doctors even make a woman carry it 'to term' if it's died in utero?  Or will they induce labor/perform a C-section once it's discovered?